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I quit cloth diapering.
There, I said it. The cat’s out of the bag.
Actually, I quit at the end of January. I’ve kept it a secret all this time. I’ve been careful not to talk about it. I’ve been careful not to post any photos of Aveline in which she’s obviously wearing a disposable.
Why did I hide it? Because I was afraid of the backlash. I was afraid of the Mama Mafia.
The Mama Mafia is brutal.
But this week, I made another decision. I decided I’m not going to be intimidated, nor am I going to make excuses. I’m going to be honest. Because truthfully? Cloth diapers are gross.
Before you stick your hand through your computer screen to grab me by the throat, let me say that again. Cloth diapers are gross. They just are. It’s a fact you can’t really argue with. You can downplay it and talk yourself through it in order to save money, but you can’t deny it.
I reached a point, nearly a year in to cloth diapering, when I asked myself, “Ok, how much money am I actually saving?”
And so The Great Disposable Experiment began. At the end of the trial period, here’s what I learned.
The Cost of Cloth Diapers vs. The Cost of Disposables
- It cost approximately $5.63/week ($22.50/month) on electricity, water/sewer, and detergent to use cloth diapers.
- It cost approximately $6.25/week ($25.00/month) to use disposable diapers.
And that’s not even counting the hundreds of dollars I spent purchasing (used, not new) cloth diapers.
A savings of $2.50/month? I quit cloth diapering.
Fellow mamas, let’s be brave. Let’s be free. I’m done hiding behind the mask of fear. My baby wears disposables. Now you know.
And you know what? I’m ok with that!
Marie switches back and forth between cloth and disposable. Everything in Moldova is scented and having babies with crazy sensitive skin, disposables there aren’t always a great option. I’ve never done the math, so it’s good to see how little you’re actually saving. I suspected it was very little :)
{ps-seriously love you for this post!}
Oh yes, I can’t manage the scented ones. Achooo!!
Me too! It wasn’t the gross factor for me, it was the time issue. I was struggling to run a home business and get all my usual laundry done, plus diapers. I kept running out of cloth and digging into my emergency stash of disposable diapers. So I finally gave myself permission to switch after about a year of cloth diapering.
I love how you phrased it, “gave yourself permission”. :) And yes, when you are working from home, the time factor is HUGE!
I love this post.
It’s true the Mummy Mafia out there waiting to pounce. I worked out cost before and it’s true you don’t actually really save money. If you were to add up the cost of them to begin with and for the say what 3 years you use them, I very much doubt there is a huge difference. Plus I had enough washing anyway [one of the reasons I stopped] without adding to it.
Thanks Kirsty. :) I agree, I can’t keep up with the washing as it is!
i don’t technically switch…i have a method…i refuse to cloth diaper in public. i just can’t bring myself to put a poop filled diaper in my bag until i get home. and i love you for admitting that you stopped cloth diapering. i gave up with addy but with mercy i am sticking it out because unfortunetely the cost of moldovan diapers are significantly more pricey. :-/ i will confess i have already found myself thinking about potty training! :-)
this is marie by the way and the other comment was sarah, ha!
We’ve just started potty training Aveline (verrry sloooowly, but still), and Mercy’s just a little younger! ;) Go for it! ;) Your situation reminds me of my mom’s comment to me today, thinking of her cloth diapering days in Mexico and Yugoslavia: “We cloth diapered because we had to, not because it was cool!”
I cloth diapered my third kid from birth until toilet training. But I gave him a Moon Pie for breakfast. Call it even?
Made me laugh out loud! Love it. :)
Good job standing up to the mafia. :) I cloth diaper and got a bit of grief for wanting to take disposables on vacation. So I took cloth. It was aweful. Three days in we bought a pack of Luvs and the rest of our trip was much more relaxed and fresh smelling! I’m still happy with cloth at home but I’ll never take them on a trip again.
Good for you! A vacation should be just that, a vacation. It’s a pity there’s such shame placed on things that really don’t deserve it!
I did the cloth diapers too. It didn’t last long for me. It is not easy when your child gets older and bigger. Don’t ever worry about what others may be thinking or doing. Each and every child is different and you have to adjust to whatever makes you and your child comfortable and happy. You have a very happy, smart little girl, so you must be doing something right ! :) :) You are a great mother!
Thanks for the encouragement, Auntie Jane! :) Love you!
Oh my gosh, can I just say I love this post?? I mean I have always thought the difference in price wasn’t that much but never really done an experiment or anything, but people who cloth diaper think they are earth mama or something. Anyway, I am the mom that is cheering you on! Go girl!
It’s not for everyone! Like it would make sense for you to lug cloth diapers on those international flights, right?! Ha ha ha! Thanks for your encouragement :)
I cloth diapered baby #1 while on well water, and they hung dry and then I sold them. Huge monthly savings for me. BUT cloth diapers gave baby #2 a lot of skin irritation so I ditched them and ate the cost of disposable. I think the point is we all have to make the best decision for our family and situation and be okay with other people making different choices!
You got it! That’s exactly the point.
I did cloth (mostly) for child #1. Then when child #2 came along I said “Screw it!” and went disposable all the way.
My main reason, the time factor. If you factor in the $ value of your time… well let’s just say that the cost of disposables ends up being way lower than the cloth.
Yes. My time is worth something. Totally agree.
I just love this post. So refreshing amidst all the pro-cloth diapering blogs that seem to be popping up everywhere! I can’t say I ever tried using cloth diapers on Emily – in my book, disposables are there for a reason… Why complicate life when there was such an obviously easy alternative?! x
I like the way you think. Simplicity!! x
Love your honesty!
The only reason I use cloth is because I do Elimination Communication with my baby girl – so I will save some washing here and there. I used cloth with my son for a little while but it gave him instant rash, so I ease my conscience slightly by using the so called eco friendly disposable nappies… lol
EC is brilliant, hats off to you!
Yeeeeeeep. My husband is a finance guy, so we worked through all the costs, the water,elect, the g diapers I wanted… It saved about $50 a year for the first child. Not worth all the poop interaction in my mind! At first i felt so self-conscious about not using cloth, but now I maintain it was one of my best decisions yet!
Yeah. It’s too bad that we can feel self-conscious about something that, in the grand theme of things, doesn’t matter. :)
Hi Gina! I loved your post :) I just made the switch to disposables too, but I’ve been shy about it around my cloth diaper-loving friends! you’ve inspired me to embrace my decision with no guilt! those dirty diapers were just so much dirtier when all the new foods started! hope to see you in May!
Jessica, I’m so thankful I could inspire you — embrace it, girl! There’s no shame in it! :) Oh yes indeed, see you in May! :)
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Good on you for being brave :) I was actually thinking yesterday how much my confidence as a Mother has grown since I had my first baby. We first used cloth nappies for a year when my eldest was 2ish and my second was a newborn. Then we went on holidays and we kind of forgot about cloth until my third was born. At that point the middle child and the newborn went into cloth again and I have never touched another disposable since. I think that you have to go with what works for you and what you know is right for your family and it sounds like you’re doing just that! Thanks for popping by my blog :)
Exactly, it’s all about what works for your family!
I meant to reply to this post for ages, no at last I have the time. It’s funny because I had planned on writing something cloth diaper related on our blog, but then didn’t get finished with it and I also thought I’ll just drop that topic all together. The truth is that we haven’t cloth diapered for months. (our little guy is 2 and a half, and we’ve been putting him on the potty for a while and I really really hope that now that the weather warms up, we can get serious on that subject). But the thing is, we live in a 3rd floor apartment with no dryer. We have limited space for clothes racks, the winters in Germany are very, very long and wet! And our downstairs neighbour thinks our washing machine is too loud (which is rubbish, but of course I think of her every time I put a load in the machine). So, just couldn’t stand all that extra washing during these long months and it was disposables all winter long… until now even. Now that we are seriously potty training I want to put more cloth on him again, because I want him to “feel” the wetness, as disposables always feel dry. I have never ever cloth diapered in public (while out and about) or while on holiday. And costs were never a reason why I chose to use cloth in the beginning (I don’t think we saved ANY money!)
It was the chemicals and not knowing what is in disposables that convinced me that cloth is the best choice for the tender skin of a little baby as well as the fact that no human has ever lived long enough to see a disposable diaper fully decompose (I read an amazing article on cloth diapering in Mothering magazine that motivated me a lot to carry on!)
So, these are just a few thoughts. I fully understand and respect your choice. As I mentioned, I never cloth diapered 100%, it never worked for me that way. And I find it weird that mums on the Internet (in certain blog-communities that is) think they have the right to judge any mother’s decision… What kind of diapers we choose has NOTHING to do with whether we’re good mamas or not, that is just crazy. You are an amazing mama and are doing a great job!!!
Finally I am responding to your excellent post! Yes, isn’t it strange that internet mamas think they know what is best for other mamas?! Every child and every family is different and there certainly is no single one-size-fits-all plan!
Parenting is full of great expectations and compromise! I’m glad to know I’m not the only one that stopped cloth diapering.
I was afraid to post this initially…and then was wowed by the number of mamas who commented to say, “Me too!!”
I felt the same way when I posted about our weeks worth of garbage a few months ago. Seperating out the disposable diapers from the other garbage made me have to admit to the internet at large that we don’t use cloth. I was proud that we only produced a small office garbage can worth of other garbage but was sad about the can full of diapers. Hopefully my youngest son will potty train quickly :)
I think it is great that you are being honest and I have zero problems with your diapering choice. The problem I do have is that while these numbers and comments might be true for you, they aren’t true for me. My water bill went up $3 a month with cloth. My electricity, maybe $1…I hang dry a lot of my stuff. I use disposables with my son and spent way more than you mentioned on them. It varies by where you live certainly (and how much your kid poops), but I don’t know anyone who only spent $25 a month on disposable diapers/wipes. I spent about $70 a month on them for my son. As for time- I do an extra 2-3 loads of cloth diaper related laundry per week. It takes me about 5 minutes to throw them in the wash and set the cycles. Another 2 minutes to put some items in the dryer and 2 minutes to hang things on a drying rack. I have pocket diapers so, add in 15 minutes every 3 days for stuffing pockets. Once my son was done breastfeeding, add in 2 minutes per poopy diaper to spray it. This adds up to not a whole heck of a lot…Plus, I multi-task. So I watch my favorite show while stuffing pocket diapers in the evening. As for gross- I find disposables to be just as gross. They stink… a lot. They create a huge trash bag that I have to take out. Plus I won’t run out of my cloth. I won’t have to run to the store and grab some in a pinch. So, I have no judgments about you using disposables, but I personally know I have saved at least $1500 cloth diapering my second child and the very minimal extra time it takes me is worth it to me.
“While these numbers and comments might be true for you, they aren’t true for me…” that’s exactly my point. :) Every one — every family, every child — is different. Whatever type of diaper each mama chooses for her baby is her own decision, and she shouldn’t feel like she has to justify it, defend it, or feel embarrassed about it. My overall message with this post (which is intended to be humorous as well as factual) is the following: however you decide to diaper, and don’t let anyone make you feel guilty! Thanks for stopping by, Anne.
I understand that disposable can work for you but I disagree that cloth diapers are gross. For me it’s more gross to store all those poopy diapers in your garbage (especially during summer time). How many times do babies/toddler really poop in a day ? And I don’t really mind using the diaper sprayer directly in the toilet. Poop really belongs there and not in the landfills. Time is more important than using cloth diapers? True maybe on your case but for me washing cloth diapers doesn’t take more than 30 minutes of time everytime I wash it. And I wash it only every 3 days. With regards to savings , don’t forget that cloth diapers can be reused even with your 2nd or third child. What could be more savings than that?
We leave here in a country where there is a good disposable system (for now) . Where they send all our garbage away from us so that is really not gross. But think about those communities who live close to landfills. And hey, whether you are using cloth or disposable, you are not supposed to put your babies poop in the garbage! They need to be treated and disposed properly. And guess what most people who use disposable diapers don’t bother to flush most of the poop in the toilet!
Here’s a link for everyone to read and get educated. And please don’t call us mama mafia! Mafia doesn’t educate others. :)
http://www.apha.org/advocacy/policy/policysearch/default.htm?id=1189